For many of you, throwing the words ‘happy’ ‘horny’ and ‘hogtied’ into the same sentence seems like a stretch. Sure, if you’re horny and you’re getting some, it seems fairly obvious that you’re going to feel happy. But hogtied?
Now I know what you may be thinking: “You mean to tell me that someone who is literally bound to a point where they’re helpless equals feeling aroused and happy?” Yep, that’s exactly what I am saying. This is because, well, different strokes for different folks.
We all have our kinks, fetishes, and fantasies, and the ones pertaining to BDSM are just as valid and ‘normal’ as any other.
For many of you, throwing the words ‘happy’ ‘horny’ and ‘hogtied’ into the same sentence seems like a stretch. Sure, if you’re horny and you’re getting some, it seems fairly obvious that you’re going to feel happy. But hogtied?
Now I know what you may be thinking: “You mean to tell me that someone who is literally bound to a point where they’re helpless equals feeling aroused and happy?” Yep, that’s exactly what I am saying. This is because, well, different strokes for different folks.
Like the way, your partner kisses your neck? Prefer to be more submissive during your sexual trysts? Or maybe you secretly love it when you’re able to dig your nails into your partner’s back during sex. Exactly.
We all have our kinks, fetishes, and fantasies, and the ones pertaining to BDSM are just as valid and ‘normal’ as any other.
To further prove this point, a study found that those who actively live the BDSM lifestyle were less prone to depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, and psychological sadomasochism. How about them apples?
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE HOGTIED?
In the realm of bondage, hogtied means that a person (usually called a ‘sub’ or a ‘bottom’) has their ankles and wrists bound behind their back.
It could also be when a person has their legs spread apart with each ankle tied separately. The latter then gives uninterrupted access to the nether regions.
In this way, their mobility is seriously compromised.
The person who takes the reins (usually called a ‘dom’ or a ‘top’) is able to position the bound person as they prefer, giving them access to different body parts.
How to Hogtie Someone?
If you and your partner want to spice up your sex life, you might decide to hogtie each other. Hogtying someone involves tying their hands and feet behind their back, then binding their wrist and ankle cuffs together. Before you hogtie someone, make sure that you get their consent and stop immediately if they change their mind. While your partner is hogtied, stay with them the entire time and free them if their skin changes colors or they feel pain or numbness.
Method 1 Tying Their Hands Together
1 Ask your partner to lie down on their front. Choose a comfortable surface, like the bed or a carpeted floor. Then, get them to lie down with their legs straight and their arms at their sides. Let them turn their head to the left or the right, whichever is more comfortable.
Variation: If you and your partner are beginners, try reversing the position and having your partner start on their back. Then, tie their hands and feet in front of their body to make it easier on them.
2 Lift your partner’s arms up behind their back. Bring your partner’s hands behind their back like they’re being arrested. Place your partner’s hands over their waist or bum so that they can comfortably hold the position.
- Their elbows should have a slight bend in them to avoid strain.
3 Fold a rope in half and thread the ends through the loop to make a cuff. Create a loop by folding your rope in half, then hold the rope behind your partner’s hands. Wrap the ends of the rope around your partner’s wrist and insert them into the loop. Pull the ends to tighten the rope around your partner’s hands.
- This helps you tie your partner’s hands together safely. Once the cuff is secure, it shouldn’t tighten up on them.
4 Wrap the ends of the rope around their hands in the opposite direction. After you cinch the rope around their wrists, reverse the direction of the ends of the rope. Then, wrap the rope around the outside of their right wrist. Bring the rope around and wrap it along the outside of the left wrist to complete a second loop.
- Be careful that you aren’t pulling the rope too tightly.
5 Loop the ends around the center of the rope and knot it. Bring the end of the rope up and over the center of the loop you made around your partner’s wrists. Then, wrap the ends of the rope several times to create a binding cuff. Finally, knot the ends of your rope to secure the binding.
You can use any knot that you prefer. If you don't have a preferred knot, try a square knot or an overhand knot.
- To tie an overhand knot, hold the 2 rope ends together to make 1 strand. Then, make a loop at the base of the rope near the cuffs and thread the ends through the loop. Tighten until you have a knot.
Method 2 Binding Their Feet
1 Ask your partner to bend at their knees to lift their feet in the air. Get them to bend their knees into a 90-degree angle with the bottom of their feet facing the floor. Bring their legs close together so that the insides of their ankles easily touch.
- Depending on what kind of access you want after you finish tying them up, you may want to spread their knees a little bit if they’re comfortable. This can make it easier to have sexual contact while they’re tied up.
2 Bend the rope in half and loop it around their ankles. Fold the rope to create a loop, then hold it behind your partner’s ankles. Insert the ends of the rope into the loop and pull it to secure the rope around their ankles.
- This is the same thing you did when you wrapped their wrists.
3 Wrap the ankles a second time, then reverse directions. Loop the rope around their ankles a second time going in the direction the rope is already facing. Then, tuck the end of the rope between the loops on their left ankle. Reverse the direction of the rope and wrap it around their ankles again a 3rd time.
- Once you're finished with this, you'll have 3 loops around their ankles, which will secure them together.
- Check in with your partner to make sure you're not tying their feet together too tightly.
4 Wrap the rope around the loop and knot it. Bring the ends of the rope to the center of the cuff around your partner's ankles. Then, wrap the ends of the rope around the center of the cuff 1 or 2 times. Finally, knot the ends of the rope to secure the cuff.
- Use the knot that’s easiest for you. The most common type of knot is a square knot, which is when you put the right strand over the left, then put the left strand over the right and tighten it.
- As another option, make an overhand knot by holding the 2 rope ends together, making a loop at the base of the rope, and threading the ends through the loop. Tighten until you have a knot.
Method 3 Connecting Their Hands and Feet
1 Fold the binding rope in half and position the loop under the wrist cuff. Bend the rope in half to create a loop, then place the rope under the wrist cuff with the loop pointing toward their head. Bring the ends of the rope up and thread them through the loop. Then, pull the ends of the rope down to tighten the loop around the wrist cuff.
- This will help you safely bind your partner because the loop won’t tighten their wrist cuff if they move around or while you tie the rest of the bindings.
2 Loop the ends of the binding rope around the foot cuff. Bring the ends of the rope down toward your partner’s feet. Then, loop the binding rope around the center of the foot cuff. Adjust the length of the binding rope to fit your partner’s flexibility and comfort levels.
Tightening the binding rope will bring their hands and feet closer together.
- A loose binding rope will allow them to keep their hands and feet further apart.
3 Bring the ends of the rope back up to the wrist cuff. Pull the ends of the binding rope up to the wrist cuff, then loop them around the center of the cuff. Finish the loop with the ends of the rope down below their hands.
- Ask your partner if they feel like they can stay in this position for some time. Once you finish off the binding, it will take a while to unwrap them.
4 Wrap the ends of the rope around the length of the binding. Bring the ends of the binding rope together. Starting just below their hands, wrap the ends of the binding rope around the taut length of rope going from their wrists to their ankles.
- If you have enough rope, go all the way down to their feet.
- If you run out of rope, knot the ends of the rope in place over the length of the binding rope.
5 Knot the ends of the binding rope together at the center of the foot cuff. Once you reach their feet, separate the ends of the rope. Bring 1 end over the top of the foot cuff and 1 end under the bottom of the foot cuff. Then, tie the ends of the rope into a knot around the foot cuff.
- Use the same type of knot that you used to tie their hands and feet.
Precautions For Hogtying
Always be aware of the possibility of the sired person falling! Always be aware of what the sired person will fall or hit if she faints. When the sired person is hanging, what is she hanging from? Where is the weight bearing position on her body? If there is a problem with these suspension points and body positions, then if she falls or faints accidentally, she will likely suffer serious or even life-threatening injuries. Whether or not these issues are taken into account when tying is an important criterion for judging a rope-master's skill.
There are also dangers in tying an arrow, too tight or prolonged tying can lead to postural asphyxiation (which can lead to blood clots or even death), as well as the risk of wrist and knee injuries.
#1 Fainting or falling after being untied
When tied, especially when lying down for a period of time, the tied person may faint or fall after being untied for a period of time because the balance of the body has not been restored, or the blood supply to the brain has not been restored when the person stands up too quickly.
If the sire is partially untied, let the sire sit down or lie down according to the situation, and when the sire is completely untied, do not let the sire get up.
#2 Fixed position
It is very painful for the sired person to be unable to move her limbs. Leaving a little space for the sired parts will make the bondage safer and last longer.
However, if the sire bond is fixed for too long, especially if the arms and legs are suspended at a position lower than the heart, it may lead to some problems such as blood clots and delayed reflux at the end of the limbs.
Theoretically, this can be called "suspension syndrome"; this is one of the most important adverse reactions to sirens, and some non-sirens may also have similar reactions. In extreme cases, sire bondage can occur in about 6 minutes. Therefore, under no circumstances should the rope master leave the sired person in sire bondage, no matter what the situation is, the sired person should be put down as quickly as possible.
#3 Private bondage
Private bondage has a higher chance of being dangerous than public bondage, and there are experienced rope masters who will take the initiative to supervise the safety of public bondage.
For intimate bondage, the health of the rope master should be taken into consideration, as there is no way for the sired person to escape, and it is not easy to get outside help for intimate bondage.
Research some of the rope master's qualifications, talk to others who have been tied by him to get an idea of his level, ask who he studied with and refer to his previous rope work.
Don't accept a private bondage the first time you meet him, but talk to him more and get to know him better.
Arrange a "secure phone call" with a trusted friend who knows where you are going, who you are with and what you are doing. He waits for an appointed time to receive your call, or calls you at an appointed time, and discusses how to respond if you are not contacted.
Other tips
Note that the rope near the neck, only decorative, can not be used as a weight-bearing rope, if there is a weight-bearing function as far as possible to lean towards the shoulder direction.
Do not use the rope tied to the private parts as a weight-bearing rope, and do not tie the knot in the private parts, easy to hurt.
The hands are often the first to go numb, so try to arrange the order of tying, keep the hands can be the first, the easiest to untie.
Many bondage experts are accustomed to the two-finger principle, that is, the tightness of each bundle should be able to reach into two fingers, leaving room for the sired person to squirm and adjust their body posture.
Two big guys principle: a suspension point strength should be able to withstand the weight of two adult men, hanging a person, need to be able to bear the weight of two people's strength to do safety redundancy.
Understand the bearing capacity of the upper arm, the upper arm is the main binding part of the general bundle, understand the bearing time and strength of the sired person here to avoid nerve damage.
